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Only when you learn to be happy on your own are you ready to meet The One. Because scared money never wins. When you walk into a casino and you need to win to make the rent, you will lose. When you walk in just to have fun, that’s when good things happen. It’s the same with finding a guy: Open by asking what his sign is or whether he wants kids and that’s like blood in the water. Men can smell your desperation right away. Instead, accept that you might not get everything on your Perfect Life Wish List but that you’ll be all right. You can be fulfilled by work. You can have kids on your own.There are a lot of ways to be happy, but you can’t count on somebody else for it. You have to be OK being alone. Not literally alone! Not staring at a wall in your house. When you’re in that state, peel yourself off the couch, go to the bathroom and look at the dark circles, then cover them up and go out with a girlfriend. And once you’re out there, don’t be hunting, trying to meet someone, because then you’ll come home depressed. Don’t go to an all-female poetry reading, either! I call my company Skinnygirl, but the girl on the bottle is not actually about being skinny; she’s about having guilt-free fun. That’s contagious, and men want to be around it. And once I was that girl, when I was no longer desperate for a man to save me, that’s when I met [someone].
